A research-based approach to couples therapy for communication, conflict, and closeness.
The Gottman Method is a research-based approach to couples therapy developed by Drs. John and Julie Gottman over more than four decades of studying what helps relationships succeed or fail. It combines that research with practical, structured tools designed to help partners manage conflict, deepen friendship and intimacy, and build a shared sense of purpose. The approach is warm and welcoming to all couples, whatever your relationship looks like.
The Gottman Method is built on the Sound Relationship House, a model of seven levels that together support a healthy relationship, held in place by two walls of trust and commitment. The work begins with a thorough assessment, then moves into strengthening friendship and fondness, managing conflict more gently, and creating shared meaning. A central goal is shifting the everyday balance of interactions so that positive moments clearly outweigh negative ones. Much of the work focuses on softening the patterns that quietly erode connection, often described as the four horsemen: criticism, contempt, defensiveness, and stonewalling.
The first few sessions focus on understanding your relationship: you attend together, then each partner has a short individual conversation, and you complete some questionnaires. After that, you and your therapist agree on clear goals and work through practical skills you can use between sessions. All couples are welcome, whatever your relationship looks like, and the pace is always set together.